So often military wives hear "How do you do it?"; "I bet it's tough"; "I couldn't ever do it." We really only have 2 choices: 1) Deal with it or 2)Quit. Quitting means destroying a marriage, that was sworn by an oath to God to let "no man" (or orders) tear apart. If children are involved, it means destroying their lives. YES DIVORCE IS A TRAGEDY! UNLESS there is severe abuse. Marriage can survive anything (even abuse and adultery) IF God is in the middle with STRONG consistent counseling from a marriage therapist AND a Pastor. Divorce is a choice that shouldn't be taken lightly, but in some cases it is the only option.
Since Matt is not abusive or an adulterer AND we have 3 little lives that would be effected AND I love that man more than I can ever say... I really only have ONE choice... Deal with it. Yes that's a little BLUNT. But sometimes being blunt is all that works. YES, there are tears! YES, there times the loneliness actually physically hurts! YES, the kids act out more often! YES, there are days we want to quit! YES, there are days we question our judgment to marry a military man! YES, emotions run very deep!
No matter how hard it gets we have to choose daily, to wake up a deal with daily life. We take it one day at a time. We lean on God for strength. We learn how to deal with the children's emotional breakdowns. We learn how to become "psychologists" for children, teens, and ourselves. We lean on "sisters" in the military and in church. We learn how to be repair men. We can fix almost anything that breaks and if it's too big of a job, we have a LARGE network of other military wives to find out who has the best work for the money. We find that ONE friend who is the only one who can look at us in the middle of an emotional breakdown and say "Girl, get hold of yourself and put your big girl panties on".
So no matter how lonely we get; no matter how much we cry; no matter what the future holds, we simply have to trust God and keep going one day at a time.
